Being a mom is not always easy. That’s why it is important to have a circle of support. We all have times when we need someone to talk you, someone to give us advice or to lift us up when we are having a bad day. Your circle of support can include friends, relatives, neighbors or people you meet through a club, church or other organization. Some of my best friends are women whom I met when my children were babies. When my oldest daughter was born, I didn’t know many people in my neighborhood and my mother and four sisters all lived out of state. My family was a great support but they lived so far away. I needed some local supports, so I started looking for a way to meet other mothers who had young children.
When my oldest daughter was 4 months old, I decided to join a mother’s group at my church. At the first meeting, I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. I remember being a little nervous because I did not know a single person. However, by the end of the meeting I had met lots of people and signed up for a play group and several other activities. Some activities were for mothers only, which provided a nice opportunity to engage in adult conversation and to have some “mommy time”. Other activities involved mothers and their babies. These activities were really fun too, and it gave my baby a chance to socialize with other children and to develop friendships at a very early age. In fact, my second daughter met her best friend at one of these play groups when they were 22-months old. I’m happy to say, that they remain the best of friends twelve years later. I also continue to have close friendships with many women whom I met in this group. We have supported each other through many life experiences; both the good and the bad.
It’s important to build support network for yourself and your baby. Sometimes this takes effort and courage but the rewards of friendship and support are well worth it!