Anger occurs when the brain decided that things aren’t the way they “should be”! Usually this emotion makes TSK attempt to change the situation by getting attention from making noise or using quick often violent types of movements.
The eyes are usually narrowed, and in infants they often get to the crying stage rapidly. In older kids you may see them bend their knees a little and sometime they hold their arms just a little bent, or flexed at the elbows. Most angry people are red faced. Some people take a few seconds to get to a full anger, temper tantrum state, and others have an immediate reaction. If you watch closely, you may be able to pick up clues as to when your TSK is “revving up” so to speak!
What happen inside TSK’s body and brain:
The brain chemicals, called the “fight or flight” chemicals are released. Adrenaline is one of them. They are getting the body ready to either fight or run away! Of course your baby TSK can’t do either, but he or she can throw a fit. The brain floods the body with the adrenalin chemicals, and it takes a while for those to be cleared. Some people get mad quickly and get over it quickly. This means their bodies clear the chemicals fast. Other people take longer to get over “the mad”. If someone stays mad for several hours as a child, this is not normal, and needs to be reported to the doctor. Many toddler fits occur because the child can’t understand the “whole picture”, so only know that someone is insisting on something he or she doesn’t like at the moment. All of this increases the cortisol level in the body.
What to do to help TSK when he gets angry:
Sometimes there isn’t much you can do, especially when your toddler is having a temper tantrum and you can’t explain to him why things need to be the way they are.
- The important thing is to be sure the child is safe.
- When possible, ignore the fit, if the child isn’t hurting self or others.
- As soon as the child is quiet, praise him or her for “Getting in control”.
- Pick and choose your “battles” and try to avoid anger issues that are caused because the child is too tired, is hungry, or is overwhelmed.
- If your child is inconsolable for over an hour, discuss this with your doctor.